It is so easy to focus on others faults and negative behavior despite having so many ourselves. And it is so easy to do that with our kiddos and then vent our frustrations to others. Yes, it is better to vent with each other than take our frustrations out on the kiddos but I know I can do better to vent those frustrations and then maybe ask for helpful suggestions on ways to help me help that kiddo (although, sometimes we just need to vent!).
How we react to our kiddos when we see those behaviors teaches them how they will react to others when they see that behavior. I NEVER believe in making excuses for hurtful and disrespectful behaviors but in teaching them a more helpful and respectful way to do things. We often are so judgmental with what our eyes see instead of looking with our hearts to not only what we can teach our kiddos but also ourselves. I wrote this poem to always remind me of that and I hope it helps you stop and think if you are looking with your eyes or with your heart.